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Reblog if you're not going to be with the person you want to kiss at midnight.
January 2011
December 2010
“Me: “Oh darling, you’re cute.”
Courtney: “…I’m hungry.” —~ Things my girlfriend says
Courtney: “…I’m hungry.” —~ Things my girlfriend says
“Here I am making fun of you and you’re over there being the cutest thing ever… ugh, makes me feel like suck a prick.” # ^^ #”
—~ Things my girlfriend says
“My mom and I are straight thuggin’.”
—~ Things my girlfriend says
Think women have achieved equality? Think again. →
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We Can’t Be Equal While:
- Men are the default and women are the Other (and therefore lesser).
- Being called “girly” or a “sissy” or “pussy” are some of the worst insults you can give a man.
- When a woman shows confidence in herself, she is said to “have balls”, or conversely she is a “man-eater”, “ball-buster”, or a “bitch” because she was “too” assertive.
- Men are beat up, ridiculed, or made fun of for being “effeminate” and women are beat up, ridiculed, or made fun of for being “masculine”.
- Many people get angry when a woman questions the intentions behind a “chivalrous” act from a man.
- There are men who refuse “chivalrous” acts from a woman, such as refusing to walk through a door that a woman holds open for them, while believing that it is rude for a woman to exercise the same right to refuse.
- Women can’t express anger without the very real fear of being accused of “hysterics” or being “shrill”.
- Women get scolded for “un-ladylike” behaviour: using coarse language, talking frankly about sex or other “impolite” topics, confidently voicing one’s dissenting opinion, etc.
- People continue to believe and perpetuate gender essentialism based on bad science or using actual studies to “prove” the innateness of gender roles when the study itself supports no such thing.
- For different-sex couples, women are expected to take their husband’s name, or at the very least hyphenate, but many men still balk at the idea of even considering adopting their wife’s name. If a woman decides to keep her name, both partners are interrogated and shamed by friends and family.
- For same-sex couples, people think it is okay to ask “who’s the woman/man of the couple?”
- Women are seen as the “gatekeepers” to morality/sexuality, charged with the duty of fending off the advances of men. If they fail then they were “asking for” it and/or are “damaged goods”. Their clothing/actions will always be questioned to see if they were “leading on” the man at all.
- Men are seen as “beasts” who are unable to control their “raging hormones” – which absolves them of guilt for “improper” sex (anything from date rape to sex outside of marriage) but also paints them as uncivilized brutes.
- Women are “sluts”, men are “players”.
- Women’s worth goes down according to how many sexual partners people think she has had.
- Men’s worth goes up according to how many sexual partners people think he has had.
- We live in a rape culture where many people continue to blame the victims of rape and domestic violence.
- We buy into the myth that all men (even minors) are, at all times, willing to fuck a “gorgeous” woman and any man who would pass up sex with a remotely attractive woman is deserving of ridicule.
- Wives/mothers are still expected to do most of the home/childcare, even if they have a job outside the home.
- Fathers/husbands are seen as bumbling dolts who are mentally incapable of cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, or any other traditionally feminine task.
- There are significantly more stay-at-home moms than there are dads.
- Men are expected to pay on a date, and some men expect women to put out for this “service”.
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maybe when I wake up, shit wont fucking suck.
I think I’ll start the day by clearing out my past to make room for my future. Step one, emptying and boxing my pre-college sanctuary.
Pros & Cons of 2010
At the bar earlier, I was asked to rate my year via thumb rating. I couldnt decide, so I started in the middle, went down, went back up, went back to the middle … and decided to make a list so that I could actually think about it ^^ I’m sure there’s more … I may add to it later.
Teh :D
- made the dean’s list for the spring and summer semester … dont think i did for the fall
- inducted into an honor society for my major [communications], Lambda Phi Eta
- traded in a plateaued relationship for a healthy and badass one with one of my best friends :3
- did my first craft show, and definitely made enough to want to do more in the future
- opened a second shop and had great attention and traffic to both
- Courtney’s gracious support during my surgery and all of my health debacles … and just in general
- awesome times spent with her doing whatever, but especially the trips, and early summer park lounging and sunburning times
- picking up a great paying job which has taught me a lot about the kinds of things i can do and what i want out of my career and my employers
- i havent been sick at all this year [that isnt really abnormal for me, but i usually have had something for a day or so by now]
- graduation, Seattle and the future is so much closer now that the year is done :3!
- my family gets along better this year than the last … or really anytime before this point ever
- new shiny computer :D
- finally have a phone so i can have a leash like everyone else
- i realized how much i can accomplish when in do-or-die mode. it’s nothing i would want to do for an extended amount of time, but i really impressed myself, which is always nice
Teh D:
- cysts giving me more problems this year
- late-night 9-hour no-solution ER visits
- all the things i had to get miss out on bc i was in too much pain to get out of bed
- discovering that a dermoid cyst = tumor … a tumor that was golfball size within an almond-sized ovary
- having surgery to remove said tumor … cutting abdominal muscles, rendering me useless and helpless for a while, around the time of a bad breakup (and during spring break) which could have been a terrible thing if Courtney wasnt around
- discovering i had endometriosis … which the surgeon DIDNT remove -.-
- attempting to take birth control to get rid of / take down the endometriosis … but did nothing but make me crazy and torturous to be around. 3 weeks of that was enough
- still having health problems and going through the cycle of wanting to fix it -> trying to fix it -> no one knows how to fix it -> other avenues -> same results -> futile frustration -> no more attention paid to the problem until it becomes a major issue again -> cycle repeat
- i allowed stress to consume me instead of taking things in stride like i should have; nervous breakdowns and breakups ensued :/
- Courtney and i reached a breaking point and took about 2 months apart to figure ourselves out and twist the knife some
- close friends and good people left Reno :/ i miss them
- doing 3 semesters back to back was ridiculous and i didnt have time to relax and recover
- my stress migraines returned with a vengeance
- had my first [3] cavities :c i still think they were bullshit and not needed
- had a few different points in the year where i just wanted to throw in the towel and deal with accepting defeat instead of my responsibilities
Teh … (eh whatevs)
- spent too much money, but i had a damn good time doing it
What are yours?
Pros & Cons of 2010
At the bar earlier, I was asked to rate my year via thumb rating. I couldnt decide, so I started in the middle, went down, went back up, went back to the middle … and decided to make a list so that I could actually think about it ^^ I’m sure there’s more … I may add to it later.
Teh :D
- made the dean’s list for the spring and summer semester … dont think i did for the fall
- inducted into an honor society for my major [communications], Lambda Phi Eta
- traded in a plateaued relationship for a healthy and badass one with one of my best friends :3
- did my first craft show, and definitely made enough to want to do more in the future
- opened a second shop and had great attention and traffic to both
- Courtney’s gracious support during my surgery and all of my health debacles … and just in general
- awesome times spent with her doing whatever, but especially the trips, and early summer park lounging and sunburning times
- picking up a great paying job which has taught me a lot about the kinds of things i can do and what i want out of my career and my employers
- i havent been sick at all this year [that isnt really abnormal for me, but i usually have had something for a day or so by now]
- graduation, Seattle and the future is so much closer now that the year is done :3!
- my family gets along better this year than the last … or really anytime before this point ever
- new shiny computer :D
- finally have a phone so i can have a leash like everyone else
- i realized how much i can accomplish when in do-or-die mode. it’s nothing i would want to do for an extended amount of time, but i really impressed myself, which is always nice
Teh D:
- cysts giving me more problems this year
- late-night 9-hour no-solution ER visits
- all the things i had to get miss out on bc i was in too much pain to get out of bed
- discovering that a dermoid cyst = tumor … a tumor that was golfball size within an almond-sized ovary
- having surgery to remove said tumor … cutting abdominal muscles, rendering me useless and helpless for a while, around the time of a bad breakup (and during spring break) which could have been a terrible thing if Courtney wasnt around
- discovering i had endometriosis … which the surgeon DIDNT remove -.-
- attempting to take birth control to get rid of / take down the endometriosis … but did nothing but make me crazy and torturous to be around. 3 weeks of that was enough
- still having health problems and going through the cycle of wanting to fix it -> trying to fix it -> no one knows how to fix it -> other avenues -> same results -> futile frustration -> no more attention paid to the problem until it becomes a major issue again -> cycle repeat
- i allowed stress to consume me instead of taking things in stride like i should have; nervous breakdowns and breakups ensued :/
- Courtney and i reached a breaking point and took about 2 months apart to figure ourselves out and twist the knife some
- close friends and good people left Reno :/ i miss them
- doing 3 semesters back to back was ridiculous and i didnt have time to relax and recover
- my stress migraines returned with a vengeance
- had my first [3] cavities :c i still think they were bullshit and not needed
- had a few different points in the year where i just wanted to throw in the towel and deal with accepting defeat instead of my responsibilities
Teh … (eh whatevs)
- spent too much money, but i had a damn good time doing it
What are yours?
So I have a question; How is the most beautiful, perfect, wonderful, brilliant, amazing, sexy, hilarious and kind woman in the entire world doing tonight?
^^ I’m doing great! I want to change my theme and make it as badass as yours but that’s not possible bc you’re the most badass ever [no badass backs! ha!]
“Orwell warned of a world where books were banned. Huxley warned of a world where no one wanted to read books. Orwell warned of a state of permanent war and fear. Huxley warned of a culture diverted by mindless pleasure. Orwell warned of a state where every conversation and thought was monitored and dissent was brutally punished. Huxley warned of a state where a population, preoccupied by trivia and gossip, no longer cared about truth or information. Orwell saw us frightened into submission. Huxley saw us seduced into submission. But Huxley, we are discovering, was merely the prelude to Orwell. Huxley understood the process by which we would be complicit in our own enslavement. Orwell understood the enslavement. Now that the corporate coup is over, we stand naked and defenseless.”
—Chris Hedges
“I’m so indie right now. I’m gonna go like read poetry and wear a scarf.”
—~ Things my girlfriend says
So I have a question; How is the most beautiful, perfect, wonderful, brilliant, amazing, sexy, hilarious and kind woman in the entire world doing tonight?
^^ I’m doing great! I want to change my theme and make it as badass as yours but that’s not possible bc you’re the most badass ever [no badass backs! ha!]
